You’ve told us you and your spouse don’t agree on the divorce application or financial arrangements. If spouses don’t file a joint divorce application or don’t agree on the division of property, it is important to know that a long, expensive, and drawn-out court process can follow — in some cases costing tens of thousands of dollars or more. It can also lead to uncertainty, emotional stress, and delays. Each spouse plays a part in working towards a fair and amicable resolution of post-separation arrangements. 

The emotional toll and stress that can be caused by contested proceedings is also something to consider.  As a general rule of thumb, the cost, time and potential stress of court proceedings can be minimised where spouses consent to divorce applications and agree between themselves financial arrangements - further information on a divorce application by consent can be found here.  That said, there may be individual circumstances where consent proceedings are not possible or appropriate, for example where there is violence or you can’t locate your spouse.  

Getting the right information early helps you make decisions that protect your interests, reduce legal costs and stress, and work towards a just and equitable outcome.

Divorce Process (When you are applying without your spouse’s consent)

If you are filing for divorce without your spouse’s consent you file what’s known as a sole application with the Commonwealth Law Portal.  You will receive back a sealed application — that’s the application stamped by the court.  

Service

The sealed application needs to be ‘served’ on your spouse, meaning you need to make sure they are properly notified. There are strict legal rules on how to serve it that you’ll need to consider in more detail.  For instance, you can’t serve it yourself but rather someone over 18 must serve it like a friend, family member, or a professional process server.

Timing: If your spouse is in Australia: you must serve them at least 28 days before the court hearing.  If they are overseas: you must serve them at least 42 days before the court hearing.

Cost: Filing a sole application currently costs around $1,060 (check for updates; reduced fees may apply in hardship cases).  However, if your spouse is uncooperative or difficult to locate, costs can increase because you might need legal help or a process server.

What if You Can’t Serve Them?
If you have made genuine efforts but cannot serve your spouse, you can apply to the court for:

• Substituted service — permission to serve by another method (such as email, social media, or through a family member).

• Dispensation of service — permission to skip service altogether.

The court will hold a hearing (which you may need to attend) to decide whether to allow this. If the court agrees that you don’t need to serve your spouse, they may even move ahead and decide your application at the same time. If the court orders you to try another method of service, you must comply before they will hear the case.

Spouse’s Opportunity to Respond
Once served, your spouse can file a Response to Divorce if they disagree with any facts in your application (for example, the separation date).  This does not necessarily stop the divorce but may lead to a court hearing where both sides explain their positions.

Court Decision
The court will schedule a hearing (you may or may not need to attend) to decide whether the legal requirements for divorce are met. These include:

• That there has been an irretrievable breakdown of the marriage.

• That there is no reasonable chance of reconciliation.

Remember you do not need to prove fault - you simply need to meet the legal and administrative conditions. If approved, the divorce becomes final one month and one day after the court order.  It is important to know that it is illegal to remarry before the divorce is finalised.

Other Requirements

There are a number of other requirements that apply to divorce applications, such as making sure at least one party is either an Australian citizen, ordinarily resident in Australia, or a permanent resident, and that you have been separated for at least 12 months.

If you have been married for less than 2 years, you will need to attend counselling together and provide a counselling certificate as part of your divorce application.  If counselling is not possible (for example, because your spouse refuses or you cannot locate them), you may apply to the court for an exemption by filing an affidavit explaining why you can’t go to counselling. An affidavit is a statement where you sign a version of events and swear they are true.

If you have been separated but continued living together during the separation period, you will need to provide affidavits explaining how you were meaningfully separated despite sharing a home (for example, separate bedrooms, no shared meals or finances, changed social arrangements).

You’ve told us you and your spouse don’t agree on the divorce application or financial arrangements. If spouses don’t file a joint divorce application or don’t agree on the division of property, it is important to know that a long, expensive, and drawn-out court process can follow — in some cases costing tens of thousands of dollars or more. It can also lead to uncertainty, emotional stress, and delays. Each spouse plays a part in working towards a fair and amicable resolution of post-separation arrangements. 

The emotional toll and stress that can be caused by contested proceedings is also something to consider.  As a general rule of thumb, the cost, time and potential stress of court proceedings can be minimised where spouses consent to divorce applications and agree between themselves financial arrangements - further information on a divorce application by consent can be found here.  That said, there may be individual circumstances where consent proceedings are not possible or appropriate, for example where there is violence or you can’t locate your spouse.  

Getting the right information early helps you make decisions that protect your interests, reduce legal costs and stress, and work towards a just and equitable outcome.

Divorce Process (When you are applying without your spouse’s consent)

If you are filing for divorce without your spouse’s consent you file what’s known as a sole application with the Commonwealth Law Portal.  You will receive back a sealed application — that’s the application stamped by the court.  

Service

The sealed application needs to be ‘served’ on your spouse, meaning you need to make sure they are properly notified.

There are strict legal rules on how to serve it that you’ll need to consider in more detail.  For instance, you can’t serve it yourself but rather someone over 18 must serve it like a friend, family member, or a professional process server.

Timing: If your spouse is in Australia: you must serve them at least 28 days before the court hearing.  If they are overseas: you must serve them at least 42 days before the court hearing.

Cost: Filing a sole application currently costs around $1,060 (check for updates; reduced fees may apply in hardship cases).  However, if your spouse is uncooperative or difficult to locate, costs can increase because you might need legal help or a process server.

What if You Can’t Serve Them?
If you have made genuine efforts but cannot serve your spouse, you can apply to the court for:

• Substituted service — permission to serve by another method (such as email, social media, or through a family member).

• Dispensation of service — permission to skip service altogether.

The court will hold a hearing (which you may need to attend) to decide whether to allow this.

• If the court grants dispensation, they will move ahead and decide your application.

• If the court orders you to try another method, you must comply before they will hear the case.

Spouse’s Opportunity to Respond
Once served, your spouse can file a Response to Divorce if they disagree with any facts in your application (for example, the separation date).  This does not necessarily stop the divorce but may lead to a court hearing where both sides explain their positions.

Court Decision
The court will schedule a hearing (you may or may not need to attend) to decide whether the legal requirements for divorce are met:

• That there has been an irretrievable breakdown of the marriage.
  
  

• That there is no reasonable chance of reconciliation.

You do not need to prove fault - you simply need to meet the legal and administrative conditions.

If approved, the divorce becomes final one month and one day after the court order.  It is important to know that it is illegal to remarry before the divorce is finalised.

Other Requirements

There are a number of other requirements that apply to divorce applications, such as making sure at least one party is either an Australian citizen, ordinarily resident in Australia, or a permanent resident, and that you have been separated for at least 12 months.

If you have been married for less than 2 years, you will need to attend counselling together and provide a counselling certificate as part of your divorce application.  If counselling is not possible (for example, because your spouse refuses or you cannot locate them), you may apply to the court for an exemption by filing an affidavit explaining why you can’t go to counselling. An affidavit is a statement where you sign a version of events and swear they are true.

If you have been separated but continued living together during the separation period, you will need to provide affidavits explaining how you were meaningfully separated despite sharing a home (for example, separate bedrooms, no shared meals or finances, changed social arrangements).

You’ve told us that you and your spouse have children under 18 from the marriage and that you consent to parenting arrangements after separation. Agreeing on these arrangements can make the post-separation process more straightforward and significantly cheaper. It also helps reduce the stress and uncertainty that can come with asking a court to decide parenting matters for you.

By contrast, when spouses don’t agree on post-separation arrangements — including parenting or financial matters — legal costs can rise significantly, sometimes reaching tens of thousands of dollars or more depending on the scope of the spouses disagreement. Disputes about parenting can also cause lengthy delays, increase tension, and affect the stability and wellbeing of the children. When parents agree, it allows for more flexibility, greater control over the outcome, and often a smoother experience for everyone involved.

Two Ways to Record Parenting Arrangements

You have two main options if you and the other parent agree on how parenting should work after separation:

1. Informal agreement (not legally binding)
This is a private arrangement between you and the other parent. It doesn't involve the court and can be cheaper and more flexible in the short term. However, it’s not legally enforceable. If one parent changes their mind, there’s no legal way to compel them to follow the agreement unless you apply to the court later. This can create uncertainty or conflict down the track.

2. Consent orders (legally binding)
If you want the agreement to be legally enforceable, you can apply to the court for parenting orders by consent. These are formal orders made by the court based on the terms you’ve agreed to. 

Parenting orders can cover who the child lives with, time spent with each parent, decision-making responsibilities, communication and travel arrangements and more.

The court will assess whether the arrangements are in the best interests of the child. If so, and the paperwork is in order, the court will usually make the orders without requiring you to attend a hearing.

Important to Know

Unlike property matters, you can’t make a privately binding agreement for parenting without court involvement. If you want certainty, enforceability, and a clear path forward in case of future disagreement, consent orders are a good option where there is agreement between the parents and circumstances permit.

Divorce has lots of flow-on effects that people often overlook. These can include:

• Wills: Divorce cancels any part of your will that appoints your ex-spouse as executor or trustee, or leaves gifts to your spouse. Make sure you update your will to take this into account.

• Powers of Attorney & Guardianship: If you have an enduring power of attorney or guardianship appointing your ex-spouse, that will generally stay in place unless you revoke it. This means your ex could still make legal or medical decisions on your behalf. You should formally update these documents.

• Life Insurance & Death Benefits: Life insurance or superannuation death benefits may still go to your ex after divorce if you don’t update your beneficiary nominations. You need to contact your insurers and super fund to update these details as appropriate.

• Joint Debts: Divorce doesn’t release you from joint liabilities. You need to think about what debt you hold in both names and formally transfer or refinance liability as needed.

Name Change: If you changed your name during the marriage, consider whether you want to change it back to your prior name. This involves paperwork, including updating your passport, driver’s licence, bank accounts, and other records